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After sharing where Kali’s childhood led her she jumps into where she is at currently and the lessons she had learned. These words were shared from The girl that never grew up.

My day job is literally me on the watch for mini-versions-of-me. I want to be there to talk to when they feel like they have no one else to talk to. I love lecturing them on life. Fuck the curriculum, it’s basically redundant anyway.

I am right there with you. I have four pint size little versions of me that are running around attempting to create a whole lot of energy in the Universe. I am doing my best to teach my children that the world is made better when we do our best to be our best selves. I know that I am the representation of how destructive a person can be when they don’t control themselves. And while it could be taken negatively, my inability to control myself offers a yin yang balance with my husband’s stability and what comes from being despotic versus hedonistic.

“The kids are so fucking disconnected from the education system, that’s pretty much why they are so damned apathetic.”

The kids are so deprived of nurturing and needed information that they are virtual sponges for details of truthful admissions and honest declarations.

  • I tell my students not the sordid details of my youthful transgressions, but instead I tell them that it’s okay to make mistakes.”

Since they are my children, I am very open and honest about what I did in the past and the lessons that I have learned from those mistakes or experiences. I want them to see that the past doesn’t have to hurt even if it is full of mistakes or lessons needing learned. I want to show them that people can mess up but still turn into a decent human being. Stuff happens but we grow from what we go through.

  • I tell my kids to fuck off what people say about them, but to consider WHY other people say those things?”

Empathy is the best skill we have to keep ourselves safe within society. For when we think of what others are going through and what might be going into why they are acting the way they are, we are making ourselves think along their wavelengths, which I feel pulls out their problem to be processed by other more stabilized minds. I teach my children the same concept. When my daughter tells me that a student is calling her names, I remind her that he may not have a parent that cares enough to teach his child the art of being nice and not hurting other’s feelings. In every circumstance I attempt to teach my children to think of what others might be going through so that they might feel better about their own circumstances through understanding another.

  • I tell my kids to work smarter, not harder. If they rush rush and cut corners now, they’ll just have to redo the whole thing again later to fix all the mistakes, or to just start again.

 I agree completely that we should be doing our best to do our best work and that best is not always hardest. But by hardest I do not mean to give less than your best effort but rather by working as hard as you need to and not a drop more. Give all your effort to getting the job done to the best of your abilities. If you do anything less, like you said, you’ll just be starting again at a later point, likely frustrated to have to do it again. Save yourself the angst and just get it done right the first time. (2828 @ 9:44)

  • DO something properly so you don’t have to keep coming back to the same thing again and again.

The same can be said of thinking your thoughts. Your thoughts are in a pattern to keep thinking the same negative things about yourself. So repeatedly you are beating yourself up for the things you refuse to properly resolve so they are no longer something making you feel bad.

  • I tell my kids to just tell the truth straight out. Whether it’s to me, to their friends, or whatever.

The truth is the best policy because no matter what you say the other person knows it is the truest reflection of how you feel in the moment. But sharing truth is difficult because not all truths need made known when a person asks an honest inquiry. So there is some consideration for discretion that must be made upon when to tell the truth and when to answer that now is not the time for that. Because for me, children are innocent and their innocence will only last for so long. So while they want to know some things, sometimes preserving their innocence is more important then letting them know what they think they need to know.

  • Own your own behaviour because no one forces you to do anything, you choose to do the thing.

You can only control one person in this life, that is you. It is on you to be the best you that you can be because no one is going to be able to make you do anything you don’t first accept is something you’re willing to do. You are the one that is making the choices in your life, be prepared to make choices and own the consequences that come from the decision and action made.

  • I tell them to take their own agency in life, and that everything “that just happens to them” (at school anyway, I cannot speak for their personal private home lives I know nothing about) is because of what they do or say anyway. They bring about consequences upon themselves – good and bad.

We are the ones the are in control of what happens to our selves. When we put mean things out there for the world to experience, it can be expected that bad things will come in response to the meanness. One cannot expect the Universe to dish out goodness to a person that doesn’t give their all to be a living reflection of goodness. The more good a person puts out there, the more good a person will feel in their life.

  • “Accept responsibility for you words and actions.”

It is when we accept responsibility for our choices that we most feel the weight of the repercussions from those decisions. When we feel the weight of a bad decision it provides the motivation for change to make better decisions in the future. When one uses others outside the self to apportion blame or responsibility for negative consequences it is then that a person grows stagnant and cannot become more than what they have chosen to be.

  • “The sooner that start learning their own power, the sooner they can feel their power and be empowered.”

So often in this world, people are being conditioned to think less of themselves than they rightly deserve. The real power is that knowing that no one can tell you what to think but you. When you think they have power over your mind, you are in fact giving them the power to influence you where they are looking to take you. Take back the power to think what you want to think regardless of what they are telling you. They made the world dark and difficult and cold and heartless. They don’t always know what they are talking about. But in the same sense, you can’t always believe everything you think. So it is a safe assumption that more thought should be put into any given thought.

  • “I tell my kids that if they’re going to make mistakes, better to do it in teenage years before their actions have lasting impact and shit on their lives.”

I don’t advise my children to not make mistakes because I recognize that mistakes are opportunities to recognize things that are no longer serving the best interest of us. And so a mistake is in my mind the Universe stepping in and giving a sign that change is needed. When you look at a mistake negatively you are looking inward and blaming yourself for something that needed to happen to get to a better time and place. Why should you view negatively that which was meant to be?

  • “I tell them that things will always be shit and boring and stupid because that’s the way they choose to see it.”

There is such power in knowing that perception is based on perspective. And if you have a negative perspective, then negativity is all you will be able to muster to describe the world around you. When you look at the world and see how wonderful it is and all the different possibilities that exist for happiness, then all you are going to see is the magical way the world is manifesting. Don’t like what you are seeing? Change how you are thinking about what you are seeing.

  • “Because without even having done a thing, and/or WITH OUT EVEN KNOWING WHAT THE TOPIC IS ABOUT OR INCLUDES, they’ve made that judgement already.”

I try to teach my children that we should not judge others. Nor should we judge ourselves for so much of who we are is the growth and expansion of the self. Judgement means that the journey is over and its time to look back and see how far you have come and whether you accomplished what was needed. If you are still living, when is the right time for Judgment?

  • “It’s like I just have to begin to speak and they’re already rolling their eyes, moaning and grumbling about having to do some-thing. Any-thing.”

Children are in a difficult place because they are coming into their selves and leaving behind the self that fully needed to depend on another to take care of them. They are starting to establish boundaries for how they will care for others and relate to them personally. It is a time of exploration and pushing boundaries. It is not a reflection of you but a reflection of where they are at in their approaching maturity. (1723 @ 10:23)

“Fuck it. You know? I don’t care. I don’t really care about the curriculum. I care the kids learn to not be fucking arseholes. I care the kids learn that life is not easy, life doesn’t really “get better”, but it’s how you make your life better.”

I am right there with you. The children shouldn’t be turning into grownup assholes, we have enough of these in the world. I put an emphasis on appreciating the blessings that have been afforded for our lives. I do this because I believe it is the quickest way to finding lasting happiness in the world around me. And appreciation and gratitude take only one simple thing, the honest expression of thankfulness for what has come to be.

(1800 @ 10:24)